AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
Organizations AAMFT;AACC
Education/Credentials B.A. M.S. Marriage & Family Therapy
Question I have a really close female friend who always hook up with the wrong guy. We've been friend for years but we stop talking to each other for 2 years when i hit his boyfriend. He was a jerk and he keep bringing her down and hitting her. He even abuse her sexually. I kept telling her to leave him and have volunteered to go to the cops with her. I was going to her house when i saw him slapping her. I couldn't control myself when i saw that and hit him hard. We scuffle and i blank out the next thing i know i was stomping his face and she was screaming for me to stop. Then instead of thanking me she tell me she never want to see me again. So i left and did not talk to her again for 2 years. 2 months ago she call me and we're back as friends but she dont want me to talk about her boyfriend. So know we're back at square one and i cant say anything even though i felt like i wanna kill that guy every time i saw her with bruises all over her face. Can u help me? Tell me how i can make her realize that someone as beautiful as her inside and outside, deserves better.
Answer You can't help her by yourself. You NEED to call the police. I would suggest you don't even keep her as a friend. You put yourself in danger because she is unwilling to make good choices. You have too many people in your life that would miss you all because your friend is too immature to make a rational adult decision to leave an abuser. Protect yourself first.
David
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