Expert: Azure - 11/4/2008

Question
QUESTION: You are right I need to leave. I worked too hard to get where I am and I have a lot going for me. How do I find the strength to leave and not feel guilty or manipulated into staying? I know that if I stay I can forget about law school and all my other dreams that I have worked so hard for. It seems that every time I try him or his family do something to rope me back in. How do I stand my ground and do what is best for me, without feeling like I am a bad person or that I am letting them down? I know that their drug use has nothing to do with me and their issues are just that their own, but how do I disconnect myself without getting them angry or having them do something that they normally do to get me to stay and be the rescuer?

PS: Thank you for your past advice. You made me see what I should do now I just need advice on sticking to the plan.

ANSWER: they don't need to know until your gone--you explain it all in a letter...

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QUESTION: what do i say in a letter and what happens if they call or come to my house, or the police or hospital calls? How do i avoid standing my ground?

Answer
you explain in detail how your efforts at affecting positive change here haven't helped, and never will, unless/until people are ready/willing/able to help themselves, and that u can no longer wait for that to happen because the price is to give up your life, and you're not going to do that..you've ALREADY given up enough;  if they call/come to your house, no one will be there; why would the police/hospital call?..in any case, they'll get a disconnected number