Question I have been married for 25 yrs. I have been unhappy for along time. My husband used to drink, go out and party about everyotner night and do a certain amount of drugs I'm not all sure what. I stayed at home raising 3 young children. I had an affair about 15yrs into the marriage I know it was wrong ( I thought I was the type of person who would never that) anyway this may or maynot have resulted in my youngest childs birth. I was scared and lonley whenever my husband went out and came home drunk I couldn't say anything cause if I did it would always be my fault that he was drinking. He doesn't go out anymore but still sits at home and drinks. He has supposedly forgiven me for the affair but alot of times he will get drunk and we are back to it all being my fault and how i'm a slut,so on and so forth. He also swears all the time that he has never cheated on me even though I don't even accuse him of it. why am I still not happy I keep asking myself what is wrong with me? I really feel like I want out but I don't know how to do it. right now all i do is cry even though I'm on antidepressents it doesn't seem to be working. There is so much more I could tell. My husband thinks everything is fine. I don't know what to do.
Answer why does there have to be something wrong with you? It sounds to me like you don't love him anymore, which is not surprising given his drinking. Alcohol slowly kills the alcoholic and those who love him. You may want to go to an alanon meeting to see if that helps your self esteem. You may also want to go to a divorce lawyer to see what is involved with a divorce. You are not a bad person, you don't need to beat yourself up or feel guilty. These things happen to lots of people.
