AboutNafeesah Expertise I can answer just about anything on abusive relationships, but I can't give legal advice on how to get out of one that's something you need to speak with a counselor trained and certified to deal with domestic violence issues to get resources in pursuing legal recourse.
Experience I have been in abusive relationships and I have shared my experience in helping others to get out of these types of relationships. I was in two abusive relationships one lasting nearly 2 years and the other just over 5 years.
Education/Credentials Associates degree, bachelors degree, and I am a certified nursing assistant
Question I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's Indian and I'm Irish.
Me and my girlfriend never officially broke up but we didnt talk to each other for a week or so and I kinda ignored her. She was with another guy only a few days after we didnt speak to each other, they kissed and she met him the next day and went back to his. They watched a movie and anyways they started kissing and she then say on him and let him but his hand up her top and rub and grab her breasts.
Needless to say when she told me almost a month later I was really hurt cause but of us had only been with each other previously to this. It really hust me to know she had been with another guy like that.
After she had told me she said she wouldn;t do it again and the next night after she told me she was just with a guy in a nightclub, just kissin and dancin (we were not back together at this point)
She was upset after that night cause she lost her camera and called me to talk to me and said she was with another guy and I was pissed. After that she wanted to see me again.
So anyways, we're back together about 3 weeks and things are ok. Not great but ok.
She says shes happy with me but at the same time shes not. So, we had an argument when I seen her internet history and found she had been checkin out this guy whose in her class ALOT. Its like shes obsessed with lookin at pictures of him. Its prob just boredom but I dont know. Anyways she said that if he asked her to go out with him that she would give him a chance and just tell me we were over, now i think thats extremely harsh and hurtful. We made up but she still says she would give some people a chance.
So now I'm a bit pissed off and dont know what to do. I logged into her facebook account before and I also pretended to txt her as someone else, also I creted a fake account to see if she would flirt with the guy I was pretending to be, now I know these things are very wrong and havent done them in ages, but sometimes I get so curious about her and want to see those things. What can I do??? AM I a prick, do I lack self-asteem.
What should I do about my girlfriend, is she mistreatin me or has what I've done in the past been so wrong that I don't deserve to be forgiven.
I was unbelievably hurt when she told me she was with another guy, and even another one. I feel betrayed to a degree. Hope you can help. Also I think about her alot now again.
Damien
Answer Sounds like some trust issues is present along with the fact that she should have gone about things differently by telling you the truth of her intent. You having to find out she's checking out guys online and in real life. That's a sign she doesnt want to be in a serious relationship with you or with anyone she's wanting to play the field. It's not right for her to get back together with you and be serious with you while playing the field. It's either she goes back and works things out with you or make a complete clean break and pursuit what she wants because it's not fair to you for her to play you while she's looking elsewhere. If this is how she's going to be towards you I seriously think that you can do better with someone who's going to be there for you fully both emotionally and otherwise.
