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Question I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's Indian and I'm Irish.
Me and my girlfriend never officially broke up but we didnt talk to each other for a week or so and I kinda ignored her. She was with another guy only a few days after we didnt speak to each other, they kissed and she met him the next day and went back to his. They watched a movie and anyways they started kissing and she then say on him and let him but his hand up her top and rub and grab her breasts.
Needless to say when she told me almost a month later I was really hurt cause but of us had only been with each other previously to this. It really hust me to know she had been with another guy like that.
After she had told me she said she wouldn;t do it again and the next night after she told me she was just with a guy in a nightclub, just kissin and dancin (we were not back together at this point)
She was upset after that night cause she lost her camera and called me to talk to me and said she was with another guy and I was pissed. After that she wanted to see me again.
So anyways, we're back together about 3 weeks and things are ok. Not great but ok.
She says shes happy with me but at the same time shes not. So, we had an argument when I seen her internet history and found she had been checkin out this guy whose in her class ALOT. Its like shes obsessed with lookin at pictures of him. Its prob just boredom but I dont know. Anyways she said that if he asked her to go out with him that she would give him a chance and just tell me we were over, now i think thats extremely harsh and hurtful. We made up but she still says she would give some people a chance.
So now I'm a bit pissed off and dont know what to do. I logged into her facebook account before and I also pretended to txt her as someone else, also I creted a fake account to see if she would flirt with the guy I was pretending to be, now I know these things are very wrong and havent done them in ages, but sometimes I get so curious about her and want to see those things. What can I do??? AM I a prick, do I lack self-asteem.
What should I do about my girlfriend, is she mistreatin me or has what I've done in the past been so wrong that I don't deserve to be forgiven.
I was unbelievably hurt when she told me she was with another guy, and even another one. I feel betrayed to a degree. Hope you can help. Also I think about her alot now again.
Damien
Answer Damien,
Seriously why would you waste your time with this woman? You are being your own worst enemy in this situation. She is not in love with you and maybe even sees you as a waste of time. I would suggest you stop the relationship. It is driving you crazy and is not healthy either. Sure you think about her, yet the more you distance yourself from her the less you will think about her.
David
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