Expert: Nafeesah - 12/29/2008

Question

i was in an abusive relationship for 7-8months before getting out of it,
i cant seem to get over whats happened, i have flashbacks and cry all the
time, i have become distant with most of my friends and the thought of any
sort of relationship makes me physcially shake, the scars are still there , and i
have permanent damage to my ribcage, so i have constant reminders of what
has happened.
i've only just turned 16, and i told my friends what was happening, they told
the school who then told my parents, but they've taken the news pretty badly.
i'm not alowed out at all, and they've basically told me it was all my fault.
i'm just finding all of this really difficult to deal with, and would be grateful
for any advice?
sarah, x  

Answer
You're dealing with the after affects of an abusive relationship. Your friends should have not told the school if it was happening outside of it. Your parents are kind of overreacting they should be supporting you not holding things against you. The thing that's important is that you left this guy. How is getting abused your fault? Unless they liked this guy and think that what you were dealing with was a hard time. Abuse is something that shouldnt be taken lightly.