Question Hello,
Friday Febuary 15, 2008. My boyfriend and I only been together for 2 mos. and we were drinking talking about past relationships and how my ex-boyfriends would try to control me and beat on me and I would have to fight them back. (I TOLD HIM THE STORY BEFORE) but tonight he got so angry and said "If you ever hit me I'm going to hit you BACK" I asked him why he said that. He wouldn't answer. THEN all of a sudden he jumped up and started to throw me around the room (He's a Bodybuilder). I was screaming and had no choice but to fight him back to defend myself. I kept asking him why he was doing this!! He just kept saying "COME ON!! I'm not going to let no one ever try to control me AGAIN.. I"m going to stand up to everyone for now ON!!" I told him that he's taking his anger out on the wrong person. ! WE continued to fight. he didn't hit me in my face.
He never hit me before.. He only Emotionally abused me.
Anyway I called the police, and asked them to take me home. I didn't press charges because my ex-boyfriend has a son he has custody. And no family or friends. I haven't called him or heard from him since..
My heart is soo broken. He never put his hands on me, or even threatened me. He was very Emotionally and verbally abusive that he admitted to and promised to work on and get counseling.
I'm so sad. I can't even sleep at night.. I really do love him. Why did he do that. I'm soo confused.. My family is confused. They fell in love with him and we are very disappointed and angry. What went wrong? He's been through alot in life (like myself) and I rememeber him always saying to me (I cannot believe that YOU love me, I never been loved like this. and my Ex- wife never told me alot that I was handsome. You are soo fine. I cannot believe a woman like you would fall in love with a man like me).
Now I'm soo hurt.. What went wrong?
Answer Dear Dee
You did nothing wrong. Sometimes we fall in love with people who have deep emotional problems. We go into denial about the problems, thinking that the person is "perfect" if only they didn't have the problems. He obviously had insecurity problems and you are better off without him.
Forgive him, forgive yourself and go on with your life.
