About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
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Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question Hi. I've been in a relationship with this man, who is 24 (and I am 23) for about 7 months. He is typically such an easy going, happy, very nice guy and he cares about me and loves me so much, and wants to marry me. A couple months into the relationship i noticed that when he got really drunk, he gets a huge temper. Not every time he drinks, but only when he has had too many. When he is in that state, there is no reasoning with him, he acts very out of character and verbally abusive, etc. The next day he barely remembers it and apologizes so much and everything is back to normal. But a few nights ago it happened again, he got really drunk and tempered, but this time he actually hit me. And tried choking me and terrified me, I was so scaired. I finally got away and got into my house (we happen to be neighbors) and locked the doors and we didn't see eachother for the rest of the night. The next day he was so ashamed. He claimed he didn't remember hitting me but apologized profusely and came to the realization that he just should not drink alcohal at all, because he would never do this when he is sober, these outbursts are directly correlated to alcohal consumption. Ive been distant with him since and told him I needed space and time to think. Since alcohol is obvisouly the only reason that he did that and that he gets those tempers, if he eliminated it completely, then wouldn't everything be fine then? Should I stay with him then on those terms? Is it fair to leave him even though i know it wasn't really 'him' that was doing that, it was the alcohol? I really really miss him and still love him. But I didn't think a girl like me would ever be in the situation to be hit by a boyfriend. I come from a great background, wealthy and strong family upbringing, and would never fathom that. He on the otherhand is not close with his family at all. Do you think I should stay with him if he eliminates drinking alcohal? He is such a good person other than that and cares about me so much. I am so confused.
Answer Hi Kathy, your boyfriend has hidden problems that he is not able to speak about when he is sober.
Therapy would be a great thing for him and I do suggest staying away.
If he wants to have a relationship with you their needs to have some rules set up.
Therapy and not living together.
Seeing each other is good and maybe the therapist can suggest when would be a good time for you both to get closer.
Remember please you are teaching him how to treat you, what you will accept in the relationship, so please put you first.
