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Expert: Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. - 2/9/2008


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My problem is this... I don’t live with my parents,( I’m 23 years old, female) but sometimes I think, when my parents call me or when I call them, they are having sex to better their sex drive, while talking to me, on the phone that is,. Maybe I’m imagining or something, which I hope I’m, but I can sense that they are really into it, and they  don’t hang up the phone on me for a while, but sometimes I’m even afraid to be around my dad thinking he thinks of me in a sexual way, is this a problem some how I can over come,? Thank you very much, (I don’t think I was abused by anyone when I was young, I do have a loving family)... I mean the only problem my dad used to have is a depression problem that was almost cured through electro shock a while back, if this has any effect just to notify

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Jenna, it is obvious that you are bothered by what you think may be your parents' sexual behavior during, and immediately after, telephone conversations with you.  Now, since you have no direct evidence that your parents indeed are indulging in such behavior while you are on the phone; and since you also have feelings about your father possibly thinking about you in a sexual way, it would be beneficial for you to explore with a therapist, these, and other feelings that may arise in your sessions.  Your medical doctor should be able to refer you to a competent psychotherapist.

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Eugenia Springer, Ph.D.

Expertise

I can answer your questions on how to stop being a victim, and/or how to stop being an abuser. My ability to help you, however, would depend on your willingness to assume full responsibility for helping yourself.

Experience

From the 1970s to the present, my life has been a search after knowing my purpose, knowing myself, and knowing God. I talk about this search in my 2002 book, "Further Insights Into the Journey". After years of teaching biology at university, I became a radio Family Life Counselor, and a newspaper columnist, responding to callers on radio, and replying to letters from the public, in the newspapers. My book for the adolescent girl, "Girl, It's All About You"(Review & Herald Publishers 1980, and out of print) was my attempt to marry my field of training--biology, and my adoptive field--interpersonal relationships. "Further Insights Into the Journey" is about my search for personal freedom--a search for freedom from external controls; for freedom from fear. Through very instructive experiences, many sorely trying, I uncovered that freedom within me, and found myself progressively experiencing increasingly greater measures of peace. To get your copy of "Further Insights Into The Journey" email me at dreugenia.springer@live.com For a few years I hosted and produced the weekly call-in radio program, Life and Living/Soul to Soul on radio station Power102fm.

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Certificate in Parenting and Family Life Counseling Certificate in Dianetics Counseling Ph.D. in Zoology (specializing in Biochemical Genetics)

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