AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
Organizations AAMFT;AACC
Education/Credentials B.A. M.S. Marriage & Family Therapy
Question I'm really looking for some straight forward advice! I got into my first relationship, thinking all was great and it was normal to make sacrifices. Soon enough the sacrifices starting become members of my family and friends. I tried talking to him about how I was unhappy with things in my life and was assulted. I currently have a relief from abuse order on him and am filing for divorce. I knew better than to go back, as hard as it was. My question is, although I am not totally sure as of this point, I may be pregnant. I've thought about my choices and I'm in the process of getting my life back of track...and as hard as having a child would be, I see that as my only choice. I'm looking for any advice you have on going through with the pregnancy and being able to do it all on my own. Any help would be very welcome, thanks!
Answer Whitney,
Your concern now should be simply about the welfare of the child. Please DO NOT consider going back to this abusive man. It is not fair to the child. I would suggest you move back in with any type of relatives you have that will allow it. I strongly suggest you adopt the baby to a stable two-parent home. While I am sure you can take care of this child being in a stable two parent home gives the child a better chance at growing up emotionally healthy. If you choose not to adopt then I would reconcile with any family that you can to help you. It may mean eating humble pie, but this is not about you anymore it is only about the welfare and future of your child.
David
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