About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
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Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question I am so lost i dont even know where to start. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and 6 months ago i moved in with him. Very soon after we moved in together, he became someone i no longer recognized. He is controlling, abusive, and in complete denial of having any sort of a problem. I have lost all my friends because he forced me to stop seeing them. He said they were all "bad influences". The pain and regret i feel from making such a poor decision is indescribable. The moment i come home from work each night he starts screaming at me and berates me with irrational accusations. He rages and insists i have been messing around with another guy when i have never given him any reason to believe so. He destroys my things and has absolutely no mercy when i start crying. He blames me for EVERYTHING. He says he acts the way he does because i made him that way. When we first started dating, i had no doubt in my mind this was the man i was going to marry. I met his family and he met mine. We went on amazing vacation trips together. He would sweep me off my feet with gifts, and even bought me a promise ring. I had never been treated so well by any man before in my life. But now everything has changed. My world has come crashing down, and i am completely alone. I come home from school and work each day, only to be yelled at by him. I used to be so happy, i had the most amazing friends and i pushed them all away. He made me choose between them or him, and i was so brainwashed i burned all my bridges with my best friends of over 8 years. Now im alone, completely depressed and falling apart emotionally and physically. I now drink every night, just to relieve the inscessent pain brought about by his anger and abuse. Ive lost 14 pounds because i'm so depressed that i've completely lost my appetite. I know that i need to get away from him, but i am stuck in this apartment lease for another 5 months and i honestly don't know how i'm going to make it that long. How do i make sure that i stay away from him for good when i finally get out of this lease in july? He is so toxic and i know it, yet i still want to believe so badly that hes the same guy that i fell in love with. I want everything to go back to the way it was when he treated me so well. Its so hard for me to accept he is no longer that guy. I'm so alone and lost, how do i get better? Thank you for listening..
Answer Hi J, sorry to hear that you are going through so much difficulty with your ex.
Taking steps is changing the locks on the door, changing your phone number and if this does not work going to the police and have a restraining order.
It is a sad day when the man you thought that you will have a good relationship with turns out to be controlling.
If you having difficulty with the place you are living how about subleasing to someone else.
Your job is not to change another person, it is for you to have joy and happiness in your life.
You attracted the wrong person and it is for you to break the pattern of having controlling men, you do not need a man to take care of you.
Look at the types of men you have been attracting, maybe their is something you are looking for.
In the beginning it is flattering to know someone care for you until it changes to control.
Keep focus on the difficulties you have been having to help you make a conscious effort to stay away from people like this.
You are first, start loving you, you deserve better.
