Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 2/19/2008

Question
just wondering if you can help me i am separated from my husband of 30years and i just cant seem to come to term with his emotional abuse for all those years people keep telling me i am in denial of it all and i still got some love there for him and i know its not good for me to go back i did once but he was allways acuseing me of cheating i just cant come to terms with it hope you can help me
regards Heathermary

Answer
Dear HeatherMary

It is okay to love him, and to protect yourself first. If he is abusing you, it may be painful to leave him, but your health and wellbeing the the most important thing. It is normal to have conflicting emotions. The priority is your wellbeing. Good luck.