About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
I can answer questions on psychics, mediums, paranormal phenomena.
Experience relationships, psychic readings, setting goals, meditation, tai chi, therapy, yoga, massage. neuro linguistic programming
Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question Hello, I was raised in an abusive household, where my pather physically and emotionally abused my mother. Their marriage ended when I was 6 years old and these memories of abused I blocked. I know it happened because my older sisters have shared plenty of stories with me. In addition to this, after their divorce, I did not see or speak to my father for 10 years and witness my mother's inability to maintain a relationship. I married at 20, I was married for 9 years, decided to leave my marriage after finding my xhusband making out with another woman, unfortunately my daughter was with me when this happened. My marriage was not healthy, my x husband never abused me physically, unfortunately he was unfaithful throughout the marriage. His actions to carry on his need to hold sexual relationships outside of the marriage caused me a great deal of pain, always fighting to gain my selftesteem and to convince myself that I was woman enough and that his actions were not caused by me. It took me 9 long years to finally decide to end the marriage. After ending the marriage, I remained single without dating for a year, after that I started dating a coworker, remained in this relationship for one year. This man didn't dedicate much time to our relationship, we would see each other about 2x a month and I was ok with that arrangement. I have a very busy scheduled and I understood he did. I left that relationship after finding out that he was married, I was very hurt but I now recognize I had been avoiding seeing the obviouse, I knew something wasn't right and did nothing about it. I remained without dating for a while, started paying close attention to relationships of friends and family members and realized that I did not know one couple in a healthy relationship. All woman I know, and I know many, are unhappy in their realtionships but stay in them. I felt confused and decided to not date for a while, I met a guy who I thought was awesome, he was extremely smart and we were able to have long conversations about any subject. We started dating and for the first time a guy paid me plenty of attention, I wasn't use to that. He called me everyday before going to bed, text me a few times a day and sent me a few emails to work every day. I felt special, I felt loved and cared for. Our relationship seemed to be moving very fast, he introduced me to his family a month after we had started dating and he insisted in meeting my two children. I chose not to involve my children at the beginning but after 6 months I did introduce the children to him. Then I started noticing that I had been ignoring actions of his that I didn't like because I didn't want him to get upset and risk the relationship. I had stopped sharing time with my friends and family, my whole life had become him. I decided to take a few days to myself and reflect on what was going on. I realized I had stopped doing what I liked because he always had something negative to say. For example, I reduced the number of days I exercised because he kept complaining about me not spending enough time with him. I stopped going to dinner every other Friday with my friends because he complained about me preferring to be with my friends instead of him. I stopped answering calls from my family because he complained about me not paying him attention while I was on the phone. I decided to end the relationship and find myself more confused than ever. Iv'e had a cheating husband, a deceitful married boyfriend and a controlling boyfriend. Am I choosing these man to avoid intimacy? Am I choosing these man because I know I will never create a dependency, therefore, I will not risk being hurt? In my 3 relationships I felt a connection with these man, I loved them and cared for their well being. I hurt when each relationship ended but was able to move on. I find myself so confused, I now realize that I have been the happiest when I'm not in a relationship. Thank for reading such a long question, please share your thoughts with me.
Answer Hi Yaline, congratulation on seeing many of your problems and what you are attracting in your life.
You are the master of your life and you attract to you these men to learn from, once you have heal you will no longer attract these type of men.
Many thing you did right.
You realize that it has to do with your relationship with men and your first love was your father, until you clear up your emotional baggage with him you will continue to attract a certain type of men.
The last relationship you began to give up yourself to please another and now you are seeing it, that;s great, now stop it break the pattern.
Put you first, love you, make you your best friend.
