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Expert: Francis Hosein Date: 3/12/2008 Subject: Emotional abusive relationship
Question My husband decided to file for divorce and custody of our 2 beautiful children back in October 2007. He refuses to move out so weare all stuck in a horrible atmosphere at home. My children, Jo (girl, 13) and Robin (Boy 9) both blame me for this which is due to their father's constant argumentative and agressive behaviour towards me. From putting the shopping away, to money issues (he's in a lot of debt and blames me) he constantly puts me down in front of the children. This has resulted in them withdrawing from me, and feeling that they want to live with their father. He has hardly worked over the last 5 years, and this is what has caused his debts. I work full time and pay the mortgage and the other local taxes, and while he's been at home he's manipulated them into thinking its best if they live with him. We had a huge emotional row on Sunday last, where Joanna pushed past me in temper, and i fell over. he immediately siezed the opportunity to explode, call me all the names he could think of, aswell as me being pathetic, and again, demanding I move out and live with my mother until this nasty mess is all sorted. The deecree nisi has been heard at court on 28.2.08. He refuses to produce his financial disclosure so we are unable to proceed with the sale of the house and the final part of the divorce. I am desperate to stay put and see this through, but in doing so, his temper flare-ups are ruining what I have left emotionally and I am almost at breaking point. I suppose my question is, how can I best approach all aspects of this life and ensure my cjhildren see me in a positive light yet remain calm at his outbursts and constant belittling of me in front of my children. Joanna has a very strong relationship with her father and my son tries to keep the peace with his father and sister.
Answer Hi Diane, sorry about what you are going through, I know it is not easy for you to think after having two beautiful kids things are not working out as you hope.
Take a deep breathe and move out for the kids sake to have less argument and to have the court make a demand on your husband to produce the documents.
Before you leave take the time to speak to both children and let them know that you thought it is best for the family.
Your daughter is young and you need to make a decision that is for the family and not worry about losing their love the kids are not stupid and they see what is happening.
Remember take deep breathes and know the pain will past, you are not alone.
God is with you and you have the strength to make it happen.
