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Question I have been with my fiance for about a year and a half now. He has always had an anger problem throughout his life, and when he was in the army he was given selexa (sp) and it helped a little, but just made him more drowsy all day. So he stopped taking it, which made his anger go up more, but he was miserable on this medication and not hisself so I don't blaim him for not wanting to take it anymore. When we were first together he always told me that he would never ever call me a name and never EVER put his hands on me. I am now very close to his mother and she always tells me how she has taught him to respect women to the fullest and if he ever said or did anything to tell her.
Well, things were great for a while... then when we started arguing he began calling me names, but only occassionaly and he would always apologize for it. THen it escalated to him calling me HORRIBLE names almost everyday when the smallest thing was wrong, and getting in my face screaming at me.
The other day he got angry and pushed me on the floor and was holding my face in the carpet and screaming at me and kept pushing and shoving me while calling me names. I started crying and told him not to hit me that i didn't deserve that, and he said that he didn't hit me, what he did was not hitting a woman and no where near the same.
I want this to stop... do you think that it will get worse? He tells me that its because I keep pushing him past the limit and he can't help it when he gets that angry that he can't control it.
Help me. I still really love him with all of my heart and all the good moments that we share are amazing, I just need to know what to do. I think that maybe he is bipolar, because his emotions go from extreme happiness to extreme hate and anger in like a 10 minute period, and its just getting worse.
Answer the choices; staying in the name of love and risking further physical, verbal, emotional abuse, or getting out ASAP; perhaps down the road after he agrees to/gets the necessary medication/therapy, a normal, healthy arrangement might be possible, but as of right now, staying with him would be a dangerous, regrettable decision...most times, love isn't anywhere NEAR a sufficient reason to remain in bad relationships, ESPECIALLY ones that involve abuse..
