AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
Organizations AAMFT;AACC
Education/Credentials B.A. M.S. Marriage & Family Therapy
Question Hello Sir, the relationship that i am in is not an abusive one but however we have been having alot of troubles. Everytime that we get into a fight i always end up saying that i am leaving her, their is not another person in the world that i think can make me happy but this girl. We recently had a child everything was good and we were not fighting until after the child was born. Before the child was born i decided that i would join the military to be able to make a living for the family that i wanted to build. She lives 4 hours away and said that she was going to be moving down but it has been 3 months and i have made all the preperations that i can think of besides getting her a car which i will be getting next week. She says that she is coming down but i have grown impatent i know this is wrong but i don't like being without here it always seems that we fight when we are away from each other. I try to keep a level head and remind her everyday and night that i love here and that i miss her but she always seems like it does not really matter to her she says that she does not want to show effection over the phone because i should know that she misses me and loves me. i know all this stuff is jumbled together but my point is i love her and know that i can live without here but i don't want to i want to fix the relationship that has been so scared from the past and move on with a great future how can i do this?
Answer Summers,
My suggestion is that if you truly love this girl like you say you do you should marry her. Show her that you are committed to her and willing to make the commitment to be with her. This will be better for your child and hopefully show her that you are serious about this relationship.
David
