About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
I can answer questions on psychics, mediums, paranormal phenomena.
Experience relationships, psychic readings, setting goals, meditation, tai chi, therapy, yoga, massage. neuro linguistic programming
Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question I met my husband 4 years ago and things seemed alright in the begining as they always are! After I had our son, things started to change, things like sometimes the tea I cooked him wasn't good enough for him when he comes home from work. We got a joint bank account but im not allowed to take anything from it. He tells me im not cleaning the house properly and tells me to stop going out for coffee with my friends as you should be at home doing house chores. When we argue (which is alot) everything is my fault, he shouts and starts throwing things around scareing me, my son now 2 and my daughter whos 7yrs old,(from previous relationship). My step son is living with us for a while and he has got into drugs and I have found them in the house, when I told my husband about it he freaked out on me and just says to his son dont do it again, but he is! He has pushed me around to scare me and when I ask why he does it he says "to shut you up!" He also says its good that the kids are scared of me". He has said some awful things about our sex life like sometimes he needs a drink to sleep with me. I hate this relationship im in. Im a bag of nerves. Its easy to say leave but I have no where to go and no money. Help!
Answer Hi Emma, no it is not easy to say leave it is the most difficult thing to do because of your emotional history you have with this person.
You have given up a lot for this person and to make peace hoping that this person will turn around yet you do not see signs of this.
What is the solution, do you see yourself another 5 years with the same situation or do you want to change this.
You work put your money aside a small percent until you can have enough for 3-6 months rent.
You need to plan, where you want to live, when you you will have the money, what you will take with you.
If he wants to shut you up that means that your talking is not working and that you have to stop asking others to change, you need to change so it no longer affect you.
If it will take to long to save this money then you need to go by friend temporarily or family members.
With each place you live their are government agencies that can help you when you are in an abusive relationship they can help you get shelter as a transition for another place.
Be productive and take action to get what you want because this is affecting your youngest and changing her feelings about men and will affect her with her future relationship as she grows older.
Start taking small step to break the cycle of being a victim, be courageous.
