AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
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Expert: David Simonsen Date: 3/7/2008 Subject: my marriage
Question Hello I am a 28 year old woman in a very bad marriage and i would like some advice to see if i should even try anymore.
He is a very verbally abusive man he don't use the words like bitch or any like that he calls me things like dog shit and stupid.
He has a 9 year old son that has lived with us from the age two and am pretty much his mother cause his mom don't have contact with him.
we fight all the time about everything from dinner to going to the store anything triggers a fight
about 6 months ago i stopped crying over all the fights and all the drunken rampages that he has and i picked up a very bad habit again of cutting myself with razor blades. he knows and uses it with the fights he tells me to go sit in the corner and cut myself. he wont allow me to get help for it or even look it up online when he is home. He controls all my money and blows all his. I get his child up for school and do all the interaction time with him cause his dad is always to busy for him but a am not allowed to have a opinion on what he does or don't do it makes me feel like i was married as a nanny. I need help....i have tried to leave him and he always talks me into changing my mind
Answer Amanda,
Instead of trying to leave just do it. This kind of abuse will kill you. If you have family you need to move back in with them and figure out why you have picked a guy like this. He is not around your home 24/7. Plan a date to leave and then do it.
David
