| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
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| Problem Boyfriend | 10/7/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I have been broken up from my live in boyfriend for 8 months. We were living together for two and a ...
A: Avril, Dating is supposed to be about getting information. Doesn't it seem like you have enough ...
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| confusion | 10/6/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: i have a bf frm 4 yrs..he had abusive personality..coz he controls me ,isolate me and hits ..abuse ...
A: You can't stop someone from abusing themselves and if you're the one being abused you're validating ...
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| confusion | 10/5/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: i have a bf frm 4 yrs..he had abusive personality..coz he controls me ,isolate me and hits ..abuse ...
A: I would not count on curing your boyfriend of this because once he's began the cycle of abuse rarely ...
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| help !!! | 10/3/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I have been in a relationship with a man for seven years. I met him when I was 15, dated him for 3 ...
A: If he's still pushing you that's still abuse, if he's pinching you and is disrespecting your space ...
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| abuse... | 10/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have been dating someone for a year now that has shown to be verbally abusive. I feel that if he ...
A: Melissa, I want you to hear this: You can change only how you do things. You have no control over ...
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| CONTROLLING HUSBAND | 10/1/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 6 YEARS ONLY BEEN MARRIED FOR 3 MONTHS IM AT THE POINT WHERE I WANT TO ...
A: At what point did you lose all common sense. It's not like this guy all of a sudden became this ...
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| Twisted story | 9/27/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I have a slight problem...I have this boyfriend, his name is stephen. Stephen is more than I could ...
A: You call the police when you get beat. You also go to the courthouse and get a restraining order ...
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| what does a mother do when she finds out her daughter has been pushed by boyfriend | 9/27/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: my daughter is telling me to mind my own business, I can't, I was in an abusive relationship with ...
A: You can let your daughter know that if she doesnt get herself together in terms of this relationship ...
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| my man hit me once, but he used to be kind and loving | 9/23/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I live together with my boyfriend for one year. He was seperated from exwife, now going to file ...
A: Donna, From a distance it might be easy to say, how could you stay with a man who because he felt ...
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| abusive boyfriend? | 9/23/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I am 23 and pregnant with the child of the man that abused me for over a year i moved 2000 miles ...
A: Jori, You can do what you like. The question is what are you going to make your child suffer ...
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| Trouble with new girlfriend | 9/22/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: "Hi, I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from ...
A: See if you find the answer you are looking for, here, John: "I think part of the reason I stay in ...
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| I don't know if this qualifies as emotional abuse | 9/22/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I've been dating this guy for a year and a half. In the beginning, he fell hard for me and told me ...
A: Yeah this is emotional abuse because I had this same nonsense with an ex until he found himself ...
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| Should I Trust Him? | 9/21/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: .. I have been married for 15 years to an abusive man (verbal, mental, emotional & physical). He ...
A: First thing to do, Jen, is thank God for the strength you summoned to walk away from the abuse and ...
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| Abusive relationship | 9/21/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I'm having a rough time having spent the last two hours reading about abusive relationships. Mine ...
A: Yes, you are absolutely in an abusive relationship. His mood swings, the feeling like you have to ...
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| Not sure if the relationship is abusive | 9/21/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years, but I keep doubting that I did the right ...
A: Anytime someone who constantly analyzes you and says you need to be on medication is abusive and the ...
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| Trouble with new girlfriend | 9/19/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: "Hi, I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from ...
A: John, I pause, for several minutes, reflecting. The thing unformed -- the sculptor's block of ...
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| i have no idea what to do. | 9/17/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: so i got to school today and i saw my boyfriend... he looked totally bummed as soon as he saw me but ...
A: The minute a man raises his hand at you leave him IMMEDIATELY this will not get any better. As ...
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| Confused | 9/16/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: my name is Jacqui and I've been in a relationship for three years this January. I am fully aware ...
A: This is what abuse will do to you long term it can make you dependent on that person and over time ...
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| physical abuse | 9/15/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I have read numerous letters regarding physical abuse. I am currently continuing my education to ...
A: I would really look at the field you're going into because if you're going to be counseling people ...
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| PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE... | 9/13/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I AM A MOTHER OF 2 CHILDREN BOTH ARE 3 YEARS OLD AN 7 YEARS OLD.I WAS ENGAGED TO THE FATHER OF MY ...
A: I can feel your situation and what is hard for women to understand is that abuse in any shape or ...
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| reeling, not healing... | 9/12/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I have recently ended an emotionally abusive relationship. I say recently, but it was over three ...
A: Don't laminate on times that were unhappy. Thank god you were allowed to leave and not be taken out ...
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| I left an 8 month marriage | 9/12/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I left a relationship two weeks ago with my husband I married eight months ago. I had some warning ...
A: Congratulations on making the decision to leave your husband. I know it wasn't difficult, but you ...
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| Confused | 9/12/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: my name is Jacqui and I've been in a relationship for three years this January. I am fully aware ...
A: That's the whole mystery of abusive people's mentalities they don't care about who they hurt and how ...
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| Lon | 9/12/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 years...the last year and a half has been long ...
A: Ann, First, I apologize for taking so long to get back to you. Earlier efforts to respond did not ...
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| abuser | 9/10/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Is my purse marital property? My husband has been locked up twice for 2nd degree assault against me! ...
A: Julie, You are working with someone who is ill. I do not know if there is anything you could do ...
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| Current Girlfriend | 9/9/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from the UK. ...
A: Seems to be narcissistic? Unless your counselor got their credentials from a Cracker Jack box your ...
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| My Longdistance Girlfriend | 9/9/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from the UK. ...
A: John, I am a bit confused on why you would be tolerating this behavior from her. Are you that ...
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| Current Girlfriend | 9/9/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from the UK. ...
A: I know this is probably not the answer you want to hear, but unless you feel like walking on ...
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| Current Girlfriend | 9/9/2008 | Azure |
Q: I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from the UK. ...
A: 2.5 months of intermittently seeing each other, and with squabbling, strongly indicates this may not ...
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| Abuse to daughter | 9/9/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I left an emotionally/verbally/psychologically abusive marriage 5 years ago. My exhusband and I ...
A: Tricia, So why are you not helping your children. If that is the best your attorney can do, I ...
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| Looking in the mirror | 9/9/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have been reading many of the past questions people have posed to you. I realize by observation ...
A: Susan, Ken Keyes (deceased), in his book, A Conscious Person's Guide to Relationships, says, "As ...
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| abuser | 9/8/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Is my purse marital property? My husband has been locked up twice for 2nd degree assault against me! ...
A: Julie, Even in marriage we have boundaries, and partners in a marriage characterized by mutual ...
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| What is behind the emotional abuse? | 9/6/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: Over the past year I dated a woman who I describe as 90% wonderful and 10% nasty. She pursued me ...
A: Sounds to me like she's needy and when you combine emotional abuse that's a prescription for ...
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| Last straw? | 9/5/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have been dating and was once engaged to a guy that has done something that now I am put in a ...
A: Marcia, no, you are not being ridiculous, just very trusting even in the face of adequate evidence ...
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| Trust | 9/5/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: My boyfriend of 2 years has lied to me and cheated on me a number of times. I don't feel secure ...
A: You provided the words of wisdom yourself, Joy. Here are those dynamo words: "I need help finding ...
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| help please | 9/4/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: A man at work put up my privacy fence. I paid him. He took 2 months to do it, leading me on and ...
A: He sounds like he's not stable mentally if he's acting really weird around you. I would avoid him ...
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| emotionally and verbally abused. | 9/4/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: My husband and i have been married for 17 years. We have a 16 year old boy and a 7 year old girl. ...
A: You need to get out of this marriage, not only for yourself, but for your kids. Your husband has ...
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| help me please | 9/3/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: "A man at work put up my privacy fence. I paid him. He took 2 months to do it, leading me on and ...
A: Gena, Sorry for taking so long to respond to your first letter. I knew from the time I read your ...
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| boyfriend won't leave | 9/2/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. he was working for mu uncle.s company ...
A: You are right. His livelihood is not your problem. He is an adult who is capable of earning his ...
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| Constant frustration | 9/2/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am dating a man that I have dated off and on for 6 years. He has many really good qualities, and ...
A: Joy, In describing this man and the women in his life, you present yourself as a winning candidate ...
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