AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
Organizations AAMFT;AACC
Education/Credentials B.A. M.S. Marriage & Family Therapy
Question I have been in my current relationship for almost four years. It all started well but now he is constantly calling me at all hours of the night, threatens me, accuses me of cheating although I am at work or at home. He calls me hurtful names and demands I go to his home no matter what time it is and gives me a time limit to get there. He has never hit me but has pushed me and held me down when I try to leave his house. Any time he want to have sex and I do not it is a huge ordeal so I give in. I want to get out of this relationship, but he has threatened hurt himself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Answer Sally,
You are not responsible for his erratic behavior. If you can't see that you need to leave and can leave then the problem is not him it is you. If he hurts himself (which he probably is too cowardly to do) you are not responsible for that. I suggest you stop returning calls, emails, move if you can. Do not be held in the relationship by his threats. You stay stuck because you keep responding to him. Stop responding and you will be out of it. Stay at a friends for a few days so when he comes around you won't be around.
David
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