AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
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Expert: David Simonsen Date: 4/19/2008 Subject: my girlfriend was abused and i dnt want to lose her
Question Well im in a relationship with a girl who was abused and rapped from
her own father from age of 10till 16.he abused her in bad ways and she
didnt speak for anyone because she was afraid and heinformed her its
normal till shi is old and knew that he was abuseing her and rapping
her.our relation started without me knowing that she was rapped.after 10mon
she told me that and told me all details and i was ok with that and it
didnt bothered at all that we are dating and having our life both.but
for some resons she had to go back to his house after living far away for
college for about 5 years.she is at his house with her mom 6mon ago.he
tried nothing with her but she is scared from his voice and walk
around she is unstable there and she is emotionaly dead towards me after a
wonderful life and she used to love me like hell,she changed from 2mon
she is saying that she is emotionaly drained and cant open up feelings
toward me meanwhile she doesnt want to break up with me and also i
do...she used to love me alot.i just need some help to stay cool with her
and treat her as well in a good way till she is away again and now
forever...she still needs 3mon to get out of there...pls i need as much help
as u can...
than you..
Answer This girl can't be in a relationship with you right now. He view of relationships and what they mean have been twisted. She needs to be able to speak with someone who can help her figure out what has happened to her. This would be a therapist or psychologist trained in this area. Until that happens I would suggest you hold off on a relationship with her.
David
