AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
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Expert: David Simonsen Date: 4/17/2008 Subject: jealous fiance
Question I am 28 years old. I am engaged to a 33 year old man that I fell in love with immediately. I have two kids. HE IS VERY VERY JEALOUS and one time about five years ago before I met him he tried to kill himself. He is good with my children. he says that if i ever leave him he will kill himself. he has asked me if I am afraid that he will kill me. I am not!!! I know that he has problems . I have read similar quetions to mine and they were told to get out. I wanna help him. How can I help him instead of get out of the relationship?
Answer Charlotte,
How unfair to your children that you would be willing to stay with a mentally unstable man. You are an adult and can stay if you like, but your children have no choice. Why would you risk their safety so you can have a man in your life. I suggest you leave not because of you, but because of your children. You DO NOT have the magic to make this man a stable person. He needs to seek therapy to understand that threatening others to feel better about himself is not the way to operate in the world. You putting your children there is unsafe and irresponsible in my opinion.
David
