| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
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| Trust | 9/5/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: My boyfriend of 2 years has lied to me and cheated on me a number of times. I don't feel secure ...
A: You provided the words of wisdom yourself, Joy. Here are those dynamo words: "I need help finding ...
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| emotionally and verbally abused. | 9/4/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: My husband and i have been married for 17 years. We have a 16 year old boy and a 7 year old girl. ...
A: You need to get out of this marriage, not only for yourself, but for your kids. Your husband has ...
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| help me please | 9/3/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: "A man at work put up my privacy fence. I paid him. He took 2 months to do it, leading me on and ...
A: Gena, Sorry for taking so long to respond to your first letter. I knew from the time I read your ...
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| boyfriend won't leave | 9/2/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. he was working for mu uncle.s company ...
A: You are right. His livelihood is not your problem. He is an adult who is capable of earning his ...
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| Constant frustration | 9/2/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am dating a man that I have dated off and on for 6 years. He has many really good qualities, and ...
A: Joy, In describing this man and the women in his life, you present yourself as a winning candidate ...
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| Ending an Emotionally Abusive Relationship | 9/1/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I recently ended what I've realized was an emotionally abusive relationship. Is it normal to feel ...
A: Yes, it absolutely feels normal to feel attached to someone who has abused you. Part of the nature ...
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| divorce due to I think was a unsafe marriage | 8/19/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I have just filed for a divorce and been married for less than a year. Since I been married my ...
A: I would take the advice of the courts and the police because women who are abused make the mistake ...
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| can aman who abuse all women he been with change | 8/18/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: i was with a man on and off four 7 years i left him he wouldnt stop abusing ,i found out he was ...
A: If you learned that he was married after being with him off and on for 7 years I hate to be honest ...
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| Confused | 8/17/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: All I can say is I am very confused! I have been with my husband now for 5 years. I was married once ...
A: You need to leave your husband immediately. He is verbally, emotionally, and physically abusing ...
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| abuse | 8/16/2008 | Dr.Sunu Sundar |
Q: "I've been married to my wife for four months. We are part of a religion that encourages arranged ...
A: Take your wife to psychologist/counselor for a few sessions. Make a mutual agreement with your ...
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| abuse | 8/16/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: "I've been married to my wife for four months. We are part of a religion that encourages arranged ...
A: Matt, You are to be complimented for being understanding and empathic towards your wife. This is ...
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| How can I leave my abusive boyfriend? | 8/14/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: Help! I have three kids, none are his, yet he acts as though they are. He calls me horrible names in ...
A: This is the time to leave and I mean LEAVE because the longer you stay the worse the abuse gets. ...
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| How can I leave my abusive boyfriend? | 8/14/2008 | Azure |
Q: Help! I have three kids, none are his, yet he acts as though they are. He calls me horrible names in ...
A: i essentially agree with the family--you need to work on an exit plan, that covers all concerns; ...
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| Abuse | 8/13/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am 51 years. My husband & I have been married for 28 year. Early in our marriage, he was ...
A: Karen, Any relationship can work out successfully. Individuals form relationships. What you bring ...
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| selfish husband | 8/11/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 2yrs. He has always kept me at a distance and seems to make ...
A: Freda, I would imagine there is a part of you that must think you deserve this behavior. If you had ...
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| my sister | 8/9/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: my sister is in an abusive relationship and i want to help her.....i dont know who i can call ...
A: Sara, there would be several things I would do if I were feeling how you are feeling. I would be ...
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| helping a partner move on after an abusive relationship. | 8/6/2008 | Dr.Sunu Sundar |
Q: I'm 22 and my wife is 19. We started going out five years ago and have been married for four ...
A: First It would help me if she can tell me vividly all that she is remembering about the ...
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| helping a partner move on after an abusive relationship. | 8/5/2008 | Dr.Sunu Sundar |
Q: I'm 22 and my wife is 19. We started going out five years ago and have been married for four ...
A: I understand the gravity of the past abuse that your wife is suffering presently from your ...
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| ending an abusive relationships | 8/5/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I am in an abusive relationship and I can't figure a good way out. I'm an american male, living in ...
A: You need to call the police immediately before she seriously injures you or baits you into seriously ...
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| My friend's abusive relationship | 8/4/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: very good friend of mine is in a abusive relationship with a guy and has been for over three years. ...
A: You have my sympathies as you are in a tough situation here. Really all you can do is give her ...
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| my friends abusive relationship. | 8/4/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: A very dear friend of mine has been in an emotionally abusive relationship for over three years. The ...
A: Here's what people should really see when abuse is evident. Your friend has been conditioned by the ...
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| abuse?? | 7/31/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: My boyfriend of 2 years says hurtful things and then says "I'm just Kidding"!! He criticizes my ...
A: Yes, what he is doing is emotional and verbal abuse. Many abusers try to play abusive behavior off ...
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| How to exit hell | 7/29/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I have an ex-boyfriend that came back into my life after three-years. Three years ago, he did some ...
A: Sue, You absolutely should not stay in this relationship any longer. This man will continue to ...
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| Self Abuse | 7/29/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: I dont know if this is the right category to put this in but i wanted to give it a try If you know ...
A: You've gotta stop cutting yourself, one day you'll end up killing yourself. What would your parents ...
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| abusive relationship? narcissism? | 7/29/2008 | Kathleen Nickerson, PhD |
Q: I can't fill up my entire experience with this man in one question, but I will try to be as clear as ...
A: It sounds like he is very loving at times, but also very abusive at times. Before I specifically ...
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| daughter and grandsonms6y2 | 7/28/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: My daughter age 20 is what we just learned a couple weeks ago is an abusive relationship. She has a ...
A: Kay, Your focus should be on the grandchild. You daughter is an adult and if she chooses to be in ...
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| Self Abuse | 7/28/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: I dont know if this is the right category to put this in but i wanted to give it a try If you know ...
A: you're not alone when it comes to self abuse. Many people cut their wrists, I know because I knew a ...
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| What can we do? | 7/28/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I am in a 6 month relationship with a beautiful, 6 year younger woman. I'm 28 she just turned 22. ...
A: Well, if that's her reason for your being mean, I agree with your counselor that you're not abusive. ...
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| Is the abuse MY fault? | 7/27/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: .. I've been married to my husband for 15 years. He has a volatile temper and has been verbally, ...
A: abusers can change their behavior and overcome their problems. They need to understand that abuse ...
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| Is the abuse MY fault? | 7/27/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: .. I've been married to my husband for 15 years. He has a volatile temper and has been verbally, ...
A: abuse is never the victim's fault. The abuser is the one who resorts to such actions, yet there is ...
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| Help ,Please! | 7/26/2008 | Kathleen Nickerson, PhD |
Q: When it comes to abusive relationship what first comes to mind is a man hurting a woman either ...
A: I am sorry that this is such a difficult time and I hope things will be better soon. First of all, ...
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| son-in-law manipulative | 7/25/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: My daughter recently got married. We found out just before the wedding that her then-fiancee had ...
A: When you're dealing with abuse this is what you get is manipulation and knowing that your daughter ...
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| Friendships and Weight Loss | 7/24/2008 | Kathleen Nickerson, PhD |
Q: I had weight loss surgery and my best friend of many years had surgery the year before I did. We ...
A: I am so sorry you experienced a change in your friendship, that does sometimes happen after a major ...
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| abuse | 7/24/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I have been married for 3 years.My husband and I moved to Florida not long after getting married,my ...
A: You absolutely need to get out of this marriage now. Your husband has the classic abuser mentality ...
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| Exhausted from the rollercoaster | 7/22/2008 | Kathleen Nickerson, PhD |
Q: .. I'm 39 years old and have been married to my husband for 15 years. He has an explosive temper ...
A: It sounds like you have through a lot and that he's really hurt you. My sense is that he is abusive ...
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| verbally abusive ex bf | 7/22/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I was dating my now ex bf for almost 2 years. The first few months were great. He's more financially ...
A: You still feel badly about yourself because he has brainwashed you into thinking you aren't worth ...
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| Confused.....should I stay? | 7/22/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I'll apologize ahead of time....this is long, but please bear with me. I have been married to my ...
A: Ann, First I would suggest you consult the bible and see what the right thing to do is. I think it ...
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| Am I the abuser? | 7/21/2008 | Kathleen Nickerson, PhD |
Q: I am very confused. I am so angry in my marriage and it has always been this way. My husband has ...
A: Yes, I can tell that you are really hurt, really angry, and maybe you feel a little lonely? I am ...
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| Should I end this abusive marriage? | 7/19/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 15 years. I would say that the entire marriage has been ...
A: Your husband is trying to manipulate you here. He's in panic mode because you left him, so now he ...
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| Should I end this abusive marriage? | 7/18/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 15 years. I would say that the entire marriage has been ...
A: Should you end this abusive marriage? My answer to you is a resounding YES! The most importannt ...
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