| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
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| Im abusive | 12/3/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I am a 17 year old gay man. And i have issues BIG ISSUES....I AM NOT CURRENTLY ABUSIVE. but i was ...
A: Yes it's possible to stop what you're doing, but it could take a few rounds of therapy and time in ...
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| Relationship | 12/1/2008 | james52144@earthlink.net |
Q: I have newly married just about 10 months. I am happy he is a good guy, his only flaw which now seem ...
A: You help him grow up. You explain to him that he is acting like a six year old child and tell him to ...
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| 6 months on | 11/29/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: With your advice, I managed to make the decision to leave and get on with my life. I went travelling ...
A: K, You are starting to get caught up in the dance with him again. You are telling yourself you can ...
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| How Can I Do? | 11/28/2008 | Azure |
Q: im 18 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for three years. i had his child when i was a ...
A: why are you still with him, and don't tell me it's "love", because then the question is, what is the ...
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| am i in an abusive relationship | 11/25/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: i am 20 years old i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years i moved in with him after one year ...
A: Miki, You simply went from one abusive place to another. Forget about your feelings, they will not ...
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| beginning of abuse? | 11/25/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: My boyfriend I have been together 3 years in December. Everything was perfect until I cheated on ...
A: He's angry because you cheated on him, but he should express his feelings differently other than to ...
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| Husband Hurt Me | 11/22/2008 | james52144@earthlink.net |
Q: I have been married for 15 years. My husband and I have four kids. We had an arguement a week ago ...
A: If you want to have independence, you will need to support yourself. That is a good thing. I would ...
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| emotionally abusive? | 11/19/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over 6 months now. When we first started ...
A: Your boyfriend is showing the classic signs of emotional abuse. Isolating you from your friends, ...
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| abusive boyfriend | 11/18/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. for about 6 months everything was great besides ...
A: No, this is absolutely not your fault. Your boyfriend is abusing you and abuse is never the ...
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| what is wrong with me? | 11/17/2008 | james52144@earthlink.net |
Q: I have been married for 25 yrs. I have been unhappy for along time. My husband used to drink, go out ...
A: why does there have to be something wrong with you? It sounds to me like you don't love him anymore, ...
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| so tired! | 11/17/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: i love my husband so much, i left everything i had, my career, my country, my friends family. i ...
A: You would rather be single than mistreated by someone and you would rather be single than to see ...
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| so tired! | 11/16/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: i love my husband so much, i left everything i had, my career, my country, my friends family. i ...
A: You always have a way out don't tell yourself that. You can make new friends and make a new life for ...
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| so tired! | 11/15/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: i love my husband so much, i left everything i had, my career, my country, my friends family. i ...
A: This sounds like you're being abused if your husband's resorted to taking your phone and controlling ...
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| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/15/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ...
A: Damien, the young lady has lots of problems, evidently. But being a boyfriend is not the way to ...
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| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ...
A: Damien, Whatever is going on with this girl, obviously she is feeling very insecure. Her moral ...
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| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ...
A: Damien, Seriously why would you waste your time with this woman? You are being your own worst enemy ...
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| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 | james52144@earthlink.net |
Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ...
A: I think you are being a bit immature. It is obvious you don't trust her, and quite frankly you are ...
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| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ...
A: Sounds like some trust issues is present along with the fact that she should have gone about things ...
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| abusive, narcistic ex husband | 11/13/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: It is almost 3 years since we have been divorced. He continues to harass me. My lawyer says i need ...
A: I would have been better able to advise if I had some concept of the state of social services in ...
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| Possessive relationship | 11/10/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have co-habitated with a guy for 10 years now. I have 2 children(their father has since passed ...
A: Dawn, In reading your message, though realizing you share a child with this man, I kept thinking, ...
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| AM I MAKING THIS WORSE THAN IT IS? | 11/9/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: COUPLE MONTHS AGO MY HUSBAND AND I AND OUR TWO LITTLE BOYS MOVED INTO HIS PARENTS HOUSE TO TRY TO ...
A: Rachel, If what you describe is true, I would encourage you to move home to your parents or family. ...
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| helping a friend out of an abusive relatioship. | 11/5/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I have a really close female friend who always hook up with the wrong guy. We've been friend for ...
A: You can't help her by yourself. You NEED to call the police. I would suggest you don't even keep her ...
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| relationship | 11/4/2008 | Azure |
Q: You are right I need to leave. I worked too hard to get where I am and I have a lot going for me. ...
A: you explain in detail how your efforts at affecting positive change here haven't helped, and never ...
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| relationship | 11/3/2008 | Azure |
Q: I really need advice. My boyfriend is a huge drug addict. His parents use with him and all his ...
A: only HE is responsible for his behavior---if i tell you you need to leave, and you say you can't, ...
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| Abusive realtionships | 11/2/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I actually have many questions. I am going through a divorce after ten years of marriage. My wife ...
A: Here's my take and please don't take this the wrong way, but she made a choice to go back to ...
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| abuse or bad temper and stress? | 10/31/2008 | Dana Q |
Q: I need to know if i have done the right thing. I just asked my husband of 3.5 years to leave and go ...
A: Something is definitely very wrong here, and I think you did the right thing by asking your husband ...
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| rio de janerio woman | 10/31/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I have a problem...I have been seeing this woman from brazil for 3 yrs and 5 months, when i first ...
A: Why would you be with someone who doesnt like children? You are wasting your time with her and ...
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| Is this good or bad? | 10/30/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been living together for over three years. He says he has never cheated on ...
A: Jane, I don't believe in psychics I believe in common sense. Common sense seems to be saying you ...
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| physical and mental abuse | 10/30/2008 | Dr.Sunu Sundar |
Q: This is in response to the additional information u wanted 1) I filed for divorce in August 2008, ...
A: You say, "..However, as time went on, the degree of his control increased and I realized that he ...
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| Abusive realtionships | 10/30/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I actually have many questions. I am going through a divorce after ten years of marriage. My wife ...
A: Women are emotional creatures and when you're dealing with abuse you're looking at years of damage ...
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| Is it time to leave? | 10/27/2008 | Dr.Sunu Sundar |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for one year. I am 23 and my boyfriend is 24. In late August ...
A: Greetings. As I read your mail I am reminded of one of the similar cases like that of yours. The ...
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| Emotional and physical abuse | 10/27/2008 | Dr.Sunu Sundar |
Q: I have been married for a year now to a man I have known and been in love with for almost 6 years. ...
A: Greetings. I appreciate your long and detailed mail. I very well could understand your 'inner ...
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| Emotional Abuse? | 10/27/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I am feeling just very alone and awful at the moment. I am very unsure about my relationship with ...
A: Janice, Wow...I am confused. At what point did you consider his behavior ok enough that you would ...
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| Abusive relationship | 10/26/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I'm 17 years old and have been in 2 abusive relationships. Well to my knowledge I never realized ...
A: You have to learn to recognize the signs of abuse which usually starts with verbal and mental abuse. ...
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| is it mental abuse now? | 10/24/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am in a weird situation... My old best friend from grade 2 (we were inseparable) found me on ...
A: Lisa, the internet has lots of help for us. Google the term, codependent relationships. Look for ...
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| I too have a 22 year old daughter with a child in an abusive relationship. | 10/24/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I too have a daughter with a 3 yr old son who has been in a abusive relationship off and on for ...
A: Julie, All it seems you can do in this situation is attempt to provide information to your daughter ...
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| is it mental abuse now? | 10/22/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am in a weird situation... My old best friend from grade 2 (we were inseparable) found me on ...
A: Lisa, I just read your assessment of my response, then I went back to my response to see why you ...
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| breaking up | 10/19/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: My boyfriend, 27 and i,19, have been dating for eight months, and living together for five of them. ...
A: The minute a man puts his hands on you it's time to let him go and moving in with him was a mistake ...
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| I still have problems after/because of abusive ex | 10/19/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I'm 15 years old and have (what I consider) serious problems with the way that I think. I ...
A: Cassandra, I know you have cut out a lot. Adolescence is the time we use the social skills we ...
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| Please Help... | 10/18/2008 | Nafeesah |
Q: I have been married for 2 months now. Mine was a arranged marrraige.I stayed in india while my hubby ...
A: Here's my question to you were you prepared for this marriage? What details did you learn about this ...
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