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Expert: Azure Date: 5/22/2008 Subject: Fiancee deceiving me! I think?
Question Hello,
I have known my Fiancee for 4 years now and been together for over a year. We decided to get married and have talked about it whilst we were friends getting to know one another.
Since being in his family I have realised that he is very immature. Takes no responsibilty at home, goes out all the time and sometimes has such late nights he doesn't get out of bed until 2pm.
It feels like he does things with me because he has to not because he wants to and that really hurts. Sometimes I find myself asking myself if he loves me. He is very respectful at time when I'm with him but he doesn't consider me in anything.
I don't feel he gives me much of him sacrafice for me or compromise. He never suggests any plans with me and I feel like I'm a burden on him. We are going away this weekend to spend time together and discuss things but I feel he gives me lips service. Not the truth.
I actually feel physically sick writing this. I'm so confused I don't know how I feel but the way he has treated me over this past year I am so unhappy. We have had good times but he is very incondirate and doesn't really think about me.
Help Me!!!!
Answer time for a reality check; if he treats you so badly, why are you still with him?..and please, don't mention love, because when you say you love someone who isn't "loveable", it usually means you're mistaking love for your addiction to security; chances are, not only is he treating you this way, he's seeing other women as well; instead of talking about marriage, you should be telling this jerk that it's over; if your low self-esteem/insecurities won't allow you to do so, get counselig to help...
