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My daughter has a six your old, she got pregnant and just had a bad 5 weeks ago while she was pregnant the guy she was with has verbally abused her and also has hit her in the stomach. He went to jail for about a month. He was in jail when she had the baby. He got out a week after she had the baby and was seeing her but not living at her house. This went on for about two weeks, than he moved back in was there for about two weeks and than he hit her across the back with his belt. She threw him out but he kept calling her she had blocked her front door with a couch and was scared. This went on for about three days. Now he is back there. I just don't know what to do. I am totally afraid that he is going to hurt her bad and she won't do a darn thing about it. I am an emotional wreck. She doesn't want me to call or see me at all. Any help please.
Dear Anne,
I fully empathize with you the emotional scenario that you are in.
Your fears are normal as of any mother.
Understand that your daughter is well of age to take decisions for her and to face the consequences of the decisions she took by her free will. Your daughter, inspite of all physical and psychological hurts inflicted by her boy friend still chose to stay with him and ignores your voice. This is a delicate situation. In this situation all the moves from your side to alert her regarding the risks of continuing this relationship will prove futile.This is because she is unable to grasp the realities that platforms your fear.
At this juncture I would suggest you to shift your attention from your daughter and concentrate on other positives of your life.
Try regular meditations and other relaxation exercises which will unbind you from emotional bonds.Once you are relaxed you will discover better ways to handle your worries without heaviness.
Become aware that by worrying about your daughter no good things will happen.
Dr.Sunu Sundar
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Dr.Sunu Sundar
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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission
Experience
I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.
Organizations
Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT)
In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines.
Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind.
Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students.
Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects.
A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic
Publications
I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.
Education/Credentials
I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality.
I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.
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