About Alina Neal Expertise I can answer any questions concerning abuse whether it be physical, emotional and or sexual. I have been a counselor and a nurse in my life time and have lived and fought my way to being safe in all aspects.
Experience I have experienced every form of abuse and have lived through it, and come out of it stronger emotionally and physically.
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Expert: Alina Neal Date: 5/24/2008 Subject: how to help someone get out
Question I have a friend and co-worker who is in an abusive marriage. Her husband has hit her before and is constantly saying the meanest things to her. He calls her at work probably 50-75 times a day. She is terrified of him nut realizes she needs to get out. Is there anything you can suggest she do or that i can do to help her? I have watched it escalate over the past year or so and am very concerned about her safety.
Answer Brandi
Your friend will need to get a restraining order and then either stay with some friends or family OR if safety is truly a big concern then perhaps a womans shelter.
She will also need to get herself into counseling, so that she realizes how she attracted this type. Sometimes we do this not knowing and it can be easier if we know the signs right off the top so we can make sure that it does not happen again. The other thing that battered or abused woman will do is go back because the abuser will make them feel like they can't do anything for themselves.They lower their self esteem so badly that the abused woman thinks she cannot leave therefore causing a vicious cycle.
With counseling and no contact with this man whatsoever and being in away or in a womans shelter this should help her realize how she needs to change her life and get herself some much needed help.
