About Alina Neal Expertise I can answer any questions concerning abuse whether it be physical, emotional and or sexual. I have been a counselor and a nurse in my life time and have lived and fought my way to being safe in all aspects.
Experience I have experienced every form of abuse and have lived through it, and come out of it stronger emotionally and physically.
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Expert: Alina Neal Date: 6/2/2008 Subject: staying out all night long
Question My fiance lives with me for the last 10 years. There have been a lot of problems with drinking. In the last 8 months he has gotten two drunk in publics and a DUI. He wants nothing more than to drink with his buddies. He often will just not come home from work and just not come home period. Since he says he is just drinking with his friends at the garage I have nothing to complain about. I am very lonely. Here is an example. On Friday he called me about 3pm on the way home from work I was on my way home from work also. He said he had to go to the bank. He finally rolled in around 11:30 drunk, got changed and went back out and didn't come home. He called me at 10:30 the next day and I was angry, so I didn't call him back. He went to another friends and played poker all night long and didn't come home. He is home now and is giving me the cold shoulder like I am a jerk. He says there is nothing wrong with staying out all night long. My first marriage was horrible with my husband drinking and doing drugs and never being home and then he left me for a younger women. Am I too restrictive? am I driving these guys away somehow. I have spent so many lonely nights at the window ( I live in a rural area with only a few neighbors)I really don't know what is appropriate behaviour. He says bad things about me to his friends. They all think I am a B***h. I spend sleepless nights when I know he is drinking and driving.
Answer Peg
Your with an addict honey! This will not get better and he is NOT I repeat NOT your problem to fix. Run the other way! Go to Al anon, which is for friends and families of addicts and alcoholics, this will help you to end your pattern incase you have one of attracting this type. You will need a counselor also these people are hard to let go of emotionally and physically as well as sexually. Leave before its too late!
