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Expert: Dana Q - 7/1/2008


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My husband emotionally abuses me then asks me to sexually please him to make him feel better after he emotionally abuses me.  I was sexually abused at the age of 6 to 10yrs.  Whats wrong here? I feel depressed all the time and hopeless and always tense, which makes me sick.

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Hi Anna,

Thanks for writing to me.  You should leave your husband.  Not only is he emotionally abusing you, he is deliberately re-opening old wounds by sexually abusing you, too.  This is a terribly unhealthy relationship and you should get out of it immediately.

Dana Q

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Dana Q

Expertise

I can give advice regarding emotionally and verbally abusive relationships, including recognizing the warning signs, understanding the psychology of the abuser, getting out of an abusive relationship, and breaking the cycle of abuse.

Experience

I am a survivor of an emotionally and verbally abusive childhood. I also was involved in an emotionally and verbally abusive romantic relationship as an adult, a relationship which I ended. I am now happily married to my husband of 4 years, with whom I have a healthy, non-abusive relationship.

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Two B.A. degrees in Literature and French

Awards and Honors
Graduated magna cum laude.

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