AboutNafeesah Expertise I can answer just about anything on abusive relationships, but I can't give legal advice on how to get out of one that's something you need to speak with a counselor trained and certified to deal with domestic violence issues to get resources in pursuing legal recourse.
Experience I have been in abusive relationships and I have shared my experience in helping others to get out of these types of relationships. I was in two abusive relationships one lasting nearly 2 years and the other just over 5 years.
Education/Credentials Associates degree, bachelors degree, and I am a certified nursing assistant
Question Many women are well educated and career oriented in Saudi Arabia and Arab countries. They use their all abilities and worked hard, as a result they earn more than their husbands. But, many husbands cannot tolerate the successes of their life partner. They do not co operate personally with wives who need them as a working lady. They begin to tease, mock and discourage their wives. Many of them pull their wives legs due to frustration which lead to spoil the atmosphere of home and ultimately the marriage life. It affects negatively o the children as well.
Being expatriate working women, they do not have any close relatives to support them mentally and physically. Many leave the careers to keep satisfy the ego of their husbands.
What is the Psyche of men regarding this issue?
What these women should do to handle this problem?
What is the responsibility of the husband of a successful woman?
I would be very thankful if you reply me soon in detail-
Regards/
Sameera Aziz
Answer Coming from someone who's been raised as muslim I can tell you that a lot of what muslim men feel when it comes to their women working it's a blow to their ego. Secondly they feel that it goes against their religious beliefs since if I am correct muslim men seem to think that a woman should be under his control and that she is his property. They feel that they should be the providers and that a woman's place is in the home, and that doesnt seem to be the thing with a lot of young modern muslim women some of them feel better working for their own money.
A good husband should support his wife even if she made more money than him and to help her out with things in the home if she's going to be making the majority of the income. Men in the Arab world feel threatened by women who are more successful than them and they feel like that if a woman has independence she's apt to become sexually free and to have choices and opinions about the world they live in and to also object to even marrying men of the same ethnicity. It wouldnt be a shock that as the world modernizes that women in the Arab world will stand up for themsleves and to be more independent of having to depend on a man to take care of them. It will also look at the fact that many more women will have a bigger choice in their life other than to be a wife and baby maker.
Arab women envy the women of the world because American and European women have choices such as driving, going to college, having a career and deciding to have children and marry. It seems like you're dealing with men who have a sexist mentality and seeing how so many women of the world have choices to be individuals and to be free and not feel like their existence surrounds depending on a man. If anything the only way women can overcome the way men look at them for working and going to school is to continue educating themselves because over time men will be forced to realize we women are people too and we have the right to choose how we live and work in our lives.
