Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 7/10/2008

Question
Many women are well educated and career oriented in Saudi Arabia and Arab countries. They use their all abilities and worked hard, as a result they earn more than their husbands. But, many husbands cannot tolerate the successes of their life partner. They do not co operate personally with wives who need them as a working lady. They begin to tease, mock and discourage their wives. Many of them pull their wives legs due to frustration which lead to spoil the atmosphere of home and ultimately the marriage life. It affects negatively o the children as well.

Being expatriate working women, they do not have any close relatives to support them mentally and physically. Many leave the careers to keep satisfy the ego of their husbands.


What is the Psyche of men regarding this issue?

What these women should do to handle this problem?

What is the responsibility of the husband of a successful woman?

I would be very thankful if you reply me soon in detail-

Regards/

Sameera Aziz


Answer
Dear Samera,

Greetings of peace.

You have asked me to detail about the psyche of men in looking down women,wives, husbands role in supporting his wife and tactics women should adopt in handling bleak marital situations.I have volumes of answers with me on your questions. However generalized answers will not help any one because the thought patterns cum behavior patterns of men and women are influenced by numerous external and internal factors. This makes very difficult for a psychologist to answer your question.

I am willing to help you if you can bring to me individual case where in  a family  you witness a wife falling prey to the ego  of  her husband. If such situation is presented to me, it will be easy for me to suggest ways from and through which you will be able to find solutions.

I believe you understand my point.

Feel free to contact me.

You  can also reach me at placladoc@yahoo.co.in

Have a nice day.

Best wishes,
Dr.Sunu Sundar