Expert: Nafeesah - 8/19/2008

Question
I have just filed for a divorce and been married for less than a year. Since I been married my husband has verbally and physically abused and cheated on me.  I put up with it because I was a single mom and didn't want to be alone he made me feel I was crazy and made him strike out on me. 11 months later he came home drunk 4 in the morning and was verbally and physically abused me he call the cops on me because I struck back finally and now he serving time due to his past with other relationships and DV's the state of Washington put a restraining order on him and well I can't remove it because they feel he'll do harm to me and my son. Confused and still in love with an abuser...

Answer
I would take the advice of the courts and the police because women who are abused make the mistake of having RO's lifted only to have their abusive spouses and partners hurting them. I would leave while he's still locked up to move somewhere else and make your address and number unpublished and make sure family and friends do not give out this information and if you know people who are still in contact with your ex I would cut them out of your life before they compromise your security.