Expert: David Simonsen - 9/23/2008

Question
I am 23 and pregnant with the child of the man that abused me for over a year i moved 2000 miles away from him but he still calls and claims that he loves me and wants to change and how he wants me in his life and wants us to be a family, i have called the police on him in the past they have never once taken him to jail and this scares me that they wont even take him to jail even though they have taken pictures of the bruises he has left all over my body, i guess what i am trying to ask is should i just change my name and number and continue to run from him even though i am pregnant with his child or should i let him be apart of my life or file it under lost cause

Answer
Jori,
You can do what you like. The question is what are you going to make your child suffer through? You knew he was abusive and you still slept with him and got pregnant by him. There is still a part of you that is drawn to him. Is this what you want for your child? I would really encourage you to adopt your child to a loving stable two-parent home. By not doing so you put your child at risk to be in relationship with this sperm donor. Why would you do that? It is not your best interest you should have in mind. It is the best interest of your child you should have in mind. Stats and common sense show that your child will be much better off in a stable two-parent home. Please do what is right for your child.
David
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