Expert: Dana Q - 9/2/2008

Question
My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. he was working for mu uncle.s company until he got fired for not showing up to work. He was out all night( on payday) in the company truck. He was fired and I was told to kick him out. Well, that was 4 months ago. My family thinks he is gone but we have just been hiding the fact that he is still there. I want him to leave but he won't. He doesn't do anything but make my life a living nightmare. I work to pay all the bills and take care of my two kids. He won't even clean up around the house while I'm at work. My name is the primary tenant on the lease. All of the utilities are in my name and EVERYTHING in the house belongs to me. He says he won't leave because he has now where else to go. But that's not my problem anymore. I love him but I'm not in love with him. I don't want him to be homeless but I can't deal with this anymore. What do I need to do?

Answer
Hi Jennifer,

Thanks for writing to me.  You are right.  His livelihood is not your problem.  He is an adult who is capable of earning his own living.  There is no reason to let him initmidate you or make you feel guilty about wanting him out of your house.  Call the police and ask them to formally escort him out of the apartment.  You should not put up with this any longer.

Good Luck,

Dana Q