Expert: Nafeesah - 9/17/2008

Question
so i got to school today and i saw my boyfriend... he looked totally bummed as soon as he saw me but he said it was just nothing when i asked him about it.  he pretty much was just ignoring me all morning and being a way big jerk. like he wouldn't kiss me and that's normally his favorite thing to do, and he wouldnt hold my hand either. not only that but he was talking to his friends and brother about me and when i asked whats going on all he said was : " it's nothing you need to worry about".  then a little bit after that my guy friend gave me a hug and put his arm around me and my boyfriend saw this and got way mad...
he called me over to him and asked me what i thought i was doing. so i told him that *M is only my friend, and that i think he likes me but that's it. so then he yelled at me and said that i never see him holding his friends like that and he called me some bad names and pushed me.
i saw him after 1st period and he apologized for earlier. he kissed me and walked me to class holding my hand.
so yeah... i have NO idea what is going on in his head.
will you PLEASE help me!!!  i dont know what to do!!!

Answer
The minute a man raises his hand at you leave him IMMEDIATELY this will not get any better. As having first hand experience in abusive relationships they don't get better they get worse over time. Please don't fall for the kiss and make up bits because that's how abusers win over the people they're mistreating. You are a smart girl you don't need to be involved with this jerk. I would dump him and move on with your life because a real man doesnt put his hands on a woman hitting or shoving her there is no excuse for that.