Expert: Nafeesah - 1/26/2009

Question
QUESTION: Hi,

I happen to be a really beautiful woman, I used to model. I'm 6 feet tall and very thin. I live in a house with a bunch of really short, fat, ugly girls. I have always tried to be nice to them, but they are horrendously mean to me, always picking fights with me, etc.

I was online the other day and saw a clip, here is an example of what I go through every day.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPew_SyG6As

After 5:30 in the clip things start to get crazy. I get screamed at like this every single day. They are picking on my every single flaw.

How do I deal with these types of women? I'm very distressed.

thanks

ANSWER: This sounds like some BS drama off the Bad Girls Club except it's all a bunch of silly English girls acting like idiots. Number one you are a member of that house and number two you contibute to the house as well. I think that there's some jealosy going on between you and your roommates. If things are getting this bad it's time for you to move out and get your own place. Things are not going to get better if this happens on a daily basis. You should be someplace where you'll be treated with respect. If the nit picking doesnt stop begin to look for a place of your own and start moving out gradually not at once so it doesnt draw attention to your roommates, but a few things here and there.

If you have a friend or family member who'll let you keep your things there until you get situated in a new place that should help make the transition easier. After you've moved completely out I would notify the landlord and ask that your name be removed from the lease and pay your half of the rent so you're covered. Start forwarding your mail to another address and also notify your friends online that you'll be moving and will be in touch with them when you're able to. I would also type up a letter and mail it to your roommates letting them know that you moved out because you could no longer take living with people who make you feel like crap. This is necessary because you shouldnt live where people are going to mistreat and abuse you.

Start looking for a place and move out because from what it looks like it's not going to get any better just worse.

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QUESTION: They call me "flat tits" because I have small breasts. They scream at me for every little thing.

They say "hey flat boobs! flat boobs! flat boobs!" when they see me coming.

Should I notify the dean of students?

Answer
Yes if they're harassing you and this goes on daily yes it's time to inform the dean of students of what is going on you could possibly get a different room assignment with different roommates. Document incidents and if they damaged property note that as well. What you want is to live in a cohabitative situation with roommates who respect you.