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My Boyfriend and i have now been together a year iam also pregnant!I cant have a telephone cause he thinks i make mistakes he is always telling me how sorry i am and bringing up faults that i dont even have he just thinks i do for instance i have a biracial chils and in the store school or anything he doesnt want me to be around blk peeople talk to  the or much less associate with them!im all ways wrong about everything i cant even get a job this is a controlling reltionship right?

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Dear Raven,
It does sound as though there is control going on in this relationship and that is not a sign of a healthy relationship.  If you feel unsafe or need support, I would encourage you to contact your local Women's Center and find out what services are available to you and your child.  If your boyfriend is open to counseling, I would encourage him to seek out the services of a counselor to help him heal the issues that underlie his controlling behavior.

Blessings,  Kriss

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Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP

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I can answer questions regarding emotional and physical abuse in dating and marriage situations, however I am unable to give legal advice. Having had firsthand experience in an abusive relationship, I understand the feelings, the questions and the doubts we have as we try to make decisions about how to improve our situations. I am also able to address spiritual concerns regarding staying in or leaving these types of situations.

Experience

Having been a victim of emotional abuse for many years and having family members who were in violent abuse situations, I have personal experience on many levels. I have since gone on to become a professional counselor and work with abused women.

Organizations
American Mental Health Counselors Assn., American Association of Christian Counselors, International Association of Prayer Counselors

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I currently maintain a blog at www.livingwellcc.blogspot.com. I also have links and currently written articles on my website at www.livingwellcc.com. You can also follow me on TWITTER @livingwellcc, or on facebook at Living Well Counseling and Consulting. My writings have appeared in The Good News Northwest and the North Idaho Business Journal

Education/Credentials
Licensed Professional Counselor, Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor, Certified Rehabilitation Counselor, Certified Natural Health Professional

Awards and Honors
Board Certified Christian Counselor

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