Expert: Nafeesah - 1/21/2009

Question
Hi,

There was this guy I was interested in and he likes me back, I know he likes me because he told all of his friends. The thing is though, the guy has had sex with a lot of girls, he used to go to bars every night and pick up girls and fuck them and have a new girl every night of the week. He also had several girlfriends simultaneously and was known as a player. He is amazingly hot, he is 6 feet tall and has a huge, muscular body with tattoos. The quintessential bad boy. I'm the sweet, innocent nice girl who doesn't have too much experience with men.

It was very obvious that he liked me a lot. But he never asked me out.

I see him looking at me longingly a lot. Whenever I walk by him he gives me a huge smile. It's obvious he is hot for me.

His friends told me that he liked me a lot and he felt very passionately towards me, and he was still interested, but he was holding back from asking me out because he sees me as the "marrying kind" and the "type to settle down" and they said he was not ready for that yet. They said he saw me as much higher "above" all the other women.

Why do you think he didn't ask me out. He didn't want to hurt me?

Answer
If "they" as in this guy's friends are saying he's not the marrying type or one to settle down please take this as a red flag that this guy is a player. Not only is he a player, but he seems to only be interested in girls for the moment and nothing serious. If he's got a reputation that consists of sex with a lot of different girls what makes you think he's going to be serious with you? Ask yourself this because I would hate for you to get with this guy and he's playing you and if his friends are saying he sees you as someone who's a much classier woman than the ones he's been dealing with I would be watchful. Some guys like nice girls like you to help clean up their tarnished images. I would put your focus on someone who's not out there like that. Don't waste your time with players because all they do is cause hurt and mayhem wherever they go. Don't set yourself up to get hurt I wouldnt give this guy a minute more of your time. A guy who's serious about you would be focused on you and no other woman.