Expert: David Simonsen - 10/13/2009

Question
My daughter is 25 and the mother of 2 children 1 boy 7 and a 18 month old girl. she has been with a total looser who has been living off of her for the last 8 months. His own family don't want nothing to do with him. He is a felon and served time in prison for robbery. He has a temper and looses it when my grandson misbehaves. He intercepts or runs his mouth while my daughter is scolding her son saying things like yeah Johnny if you keep it up your going to get soap in your mouth or hot sauce and you will get a spanking from me. I have just recently found out that he physically pushed him into a wall and caused him to have a knot on his head. Now he has done this again and the school ened up calling child protection services I have been involved and today she meets with this case worker there are also other incidents like about 3 other times he has physically hit him and he has also done it to her 18 month daughter on her hand leaving it all red. I don't know what to do I have personally seen him hit my grandson and the cops were called but they did nothing because my daughter and this guy made it sound as if my grandson was at fault for acting out. He is only 7 years old and dislikes this guy so much he does act out against him because he is not big enough to really defend himself. they even have him lying in fear that this guy will get in trouble my grandson is scared so he don't tell the truth in fear that he will get beat for it. but he tells me all the time he hates him and when i'm around he feels safe and acts out like being really sassy toward him its his way of getting back. I don't know but where is the law in protecting children this will go to court one way or another cause I am done seeing my grandson an granddaughter being abused.

Answer
Roxanne,
You need to call CPS and start making sure you call them every time you suspect abuse. The police will hesitate before they remove a child. CPS won't if they believe there is abuse. That is going to be the best you can do. You daughter is just as guilty as the guy since she allows it. If there is ANY way to get custody do it yesterday.
David
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