Expert: David Simonsen - 10/16/2009

Question
I married about 10 months ago to a wonderful man at the time, but he seems to have changes so much.  Back when we first started dating he was becoming suspicious of everything I did, said, or who I talked to.  I broke up with him, but continued to see him and be intimate.  I lied to him at the time about seeing someone else.  I didn't know what I wanted at the time.  When we got back together permanentally, I told him the truth about everything, he forgave and stayed with me.  After we got married though he changed.  He checks my phone, texts, emails, asks who I talk to, if I go to the gas station for cigarettes he accuses me of meeting someone even though I'm gone for 15 minutes.  He checks the phone bill for texts that I possibly deleted or lied to him about.  If he doesn't recongnize a number he demands or even texts the number to find out who it is.  I have never lied since we got back together, but he gets so angry at me over little things, he says if I touch him he will hit me when he's mad, then ignores me for hours, but if I leave the room he gets even more upset.  When mad he will tell me just to do whatever I want, see whoever, he doesn't care, but I am not allowed to talk to certain people, and if I do, he screams that I never do what I'm told....am I going nuts or is this normal?

Answer
Heather,
This is not normal. If you can get this marriage annulled I would do it now. This is going to lead to some type of physical violence most likely unless he makes the choice to start being a man with character instead of a man with fear.
David
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