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pepitowalker wrote at 2009-11-06 18:53:23
Your father abused his relationship as a intimate male in your life. This is his fault, not yours. Don't blame yourself. Church is fine, can't hurt, but you need to read some books about abuse. Patricia Evans is good, Lundy Bancroft is good. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Rob wrote at 2009-11-22 18:04:55
Dr. I am not sure that is quite and adequate answer, this poor girl engaged in incestuous sex with her father. She needs counseling, there is a reason she let this happen. She has some serious issues and all of this should be on the table to all parties, the father at this point has no business in her life. He was the adult, he knew better, she just wanted approval and she got it by giving sex. Satisfying her need for his love. I can't even imagine how this effects this child today. Nineteen years old with two kids, that is an indication of the problems she need to deal with.
I pray for her to seek treatment as soon as she can, this is not her fault. This man should be in jail and she needs to realize he is buying her a car out of guilt, she should run as fast as she can. Then go to the police, she needs to understand he is an abuser, he clearly is nothing but a pedophile. No amount of prayer will fix that, she has to realize what all this is before she can forgive and be productive and healthy in her life and have healthy relationships.
Healing can on begin when the truth is realized. I am not in anyway discounting Prayer, it is a very large part of my life. We can not always see the truth with out help. I have found writing abut the time line in ones life all aspects, what was going on in your life, how you felt, and perceived reasons
and rewriting when clarity comes puts a new prospective, this take dedication and willinness to see you own actions and contributions and why you did the things you did. Not placing blame on any parties just seeing it will provide insight.
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Dr.Sunu Sundar
Expertise
I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission
Experience
I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.
Organizations
Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT)
In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines.
Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind.
Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students.
Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects.
A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic
Publications
I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.
Education/Credentials
I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality.
I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.
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