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About Dr.Sunu Sundar
Expertise
I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues.

Experience
I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counsellor in dealing with these issues.

Publications
I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'

Education/Credentials
I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality.

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Abusive Relationships - incest

Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 10/31/2009

Question
Hello dr sundar I am hooping you can give me some insight on this situation. I am 22 years old and was involved in an incestuous relationship with my dad from 16-19. The sex stopped at 18 but the abuse and my self destruction, continued till 19. Now I am engaed with two kids that I just recently had and my father and I do still talk because he is in the process of getting me a car. My fiance knows and he doesn't know much about the situation so he blames me which makes me get all depressed. I want my father to pay for ehat he did but why do I feel guilty if he were to go to jail,what does that mean? Also I have not told my mother because I am afraid she will point fingers at me,this is just a very confusing matter and I don't want to keep this secret any longer but how do I tell? My father has got me pregnant and that is just some detail to let you know how serious things were,I aborted the baby obviously @ 16. Please help me doctor..thanks

Answer
Dear Chante,

I empathize with you.

Before I could say anything on this , I wish to know was this consensual sex or forces sex?
If forced sex, what hindered you from getting out of it

If sex happened with consensus, what attracted, enticed you to do it again and again till 18.

I will answer you again after reading from you

Have a nice day

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