Expert: David Simonsen - 12/6/2009

Question
My husband & I separated a year ago, he had 2 affairs, played mind games, turned everything around,very moody, mental abuser.However we still own a business and work together, very successful, so we see each other everyday.He stills calls me all the time and says he wants me back, I don't want that now at all but I am scared of saying no to go for coffee or to not answer his calls. I don't know what exactly I am scared of, but he has a nasty side mentally not physically. Can I break free from seeing him and still work with him without a real ugly side of him making my life a living hell. Or will he eventually get the hint if I keep standing up to him and saying no?

Answer
Patti,
You are in a difficult place. I don't think he is going to catch the hint. What I would suggest is that you have a clear conversation with him so there is clarity about the relationship. If he is unwilling to respect your boundaries then you will have to make a decision about staying in or leaving the business.
David
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