Expert: Azure - 12/9/2009

Question
My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 5 monthes, we are very close and he's my best friend. however he has quite a temper and has mood swings. I get annoyed and then answer back which makes the situation worse.
When we argue he doesn't like to address it, I try and make up, but he often stares at the TV and just ignores me whilst I am talking.
He got angry on two occasions in the past two weeks, where he has grabbed me and shoved me. I told him that this was unacceptable and that if he did it again I would split up with him. Yesterday he ended up flipping though over the most trivial thing, and shoved me again pushing me to the floor, I was so angry that I started shouting back as I packed my bag, and then he  shaked and shoved me 3 or more times and tried to throw me out the front door.
I think he thinks that I wind him up so much that he just looses it. He has never hit me and promises he never would, but last night I was really scared of him.
I am staying at a friends now, and have spoken to him, he says he loves me and that hes sorry..
He is so lovely usually, but has another side to him and can be really cold.
He says is going to go to anger management now. I don't know if its too late for us though, as i gave him two chances, and I don't just want to give him empty threats, as i said i would leave him if he did it again.
However this could be a rude awakening for him and he might never do it again as he seems very sorry.
If I go back is it only going to get worse..or do you think he can change?
I really love him and I am torn what to do.  

Answer
if you go back you made a huge mistake; the guy is physically abusive, has a huge anger management issue, and help or not, may NEVER get better; and please, don't tell me about love--if you love someone despite that kind of unloving treatment, you should seek counseling; so, the choices are: ending all communication with this jerk, or, goin back for more, living in fear of what will happen the next time....take your pick..