Expert: David Simonsen - 2/26/2009

Question
I was abused by my ex-husband and now I am living with my partner. I am really scared that he will leave me if I am not everything he truly wants. But I know that sounds dumb because he is really a great guy. I know it is all in my head and when he asks what I am crying about I cant find the words to tell him. I really dont want my feelings to ruin this for me. I just was hoping that maybe you had a few suggestions on how I can help myself and the feelings that I have gotten acustom to feeling. I cry all the time and feel rejected when in reality I am not. It takes me a while to break through these feelings and realize that everything is really good but the feelings always come back and are triggered by many things. I just want them to go away.

Answer
Cassie,
It is important to seek out some help for this struggle that you are having. It seems fairly obvious that the abuse in your life has let you to get stuck. If you don't get it resolved you will find another relationship ending. My suggestion is that you seek out a competent therapist. Online advice is not going to be useful for what you have experienced. You may even be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. Seeing someone in person is going to be the sure way to know what is going on with you.
David
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