Expert: Nafeesah - 5/26/2009

Question
I am in love with the guy my age and we have been together for 4 years.I am now 7 months pregnant with his child and i can't stop crying Everytime i think of how he is treating me.he would beat me, push me around the wall and bed,and even call me names, the only thing i could do is to put my hands on my tummy so the baby would not get hurt.he always blame me for every bad things happening in our relationship.He want me to do anything he ordered me to do and then when i refuse he would beat me and boost that he is teaching me a lesson.As we are now staying with his aunts daughter things are even worse,he always compare me to her saying i don't respect him the way his aunts daughter respect him,his aunts daughter have some attitude towards me and now she doesn't talk to me yet we are staying in the same house, My fiance always beat me because of her saying i don't like her.i am not even allowed  to do simple things like changing a TV channel or may be playing my favorite gospel music,her aunts daughter would get angry,go outside the house or  into her bedroom everytime i do that, then my fiance would come and beat me painfully saying i am after his aunts daughter and i don't like her.i want to leave this relationship but i don't know what to do because he is telling me if i do leave him, he will take me to court and take the baby away from
me.Now his aunt also doesn't talk to me, she is saying i am jealous and competing with her daughter.Her daughter boost that my fiance is her brother and she can do anything she want to do.

I now fear for my childs safety, i don't know if they will not treat him/her the way they are treating me.

I am always stressed and i know this is not right for the baby

Please help

Answer
It's unfortunate that you're in this situation, but right now the best thing is to do what is best for you and your child. This baby does not need to come into the world with a mother who's being abused and knowing that his or her father is abusive towards their mother. I would move home so you can destress and get your head together because you are not ready to marry this guy better yet I would call off the engagement and focus on raising your baby. You deserve better than this. You have a child to think about and your pain will stress you into an early labor and you need to take care of yourself and this baby. You need to get rid of this guy because love does not constitute poor and abusive treatment.