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Expert: Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. - 6/17/2009


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Hi I am recently moving on from a abusive boyfriend why do I still feel like I love him and constantly feeling guilty can they brainwash you without you knowing I am just so mixed up?

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Life brainwashes us, Kathy.  Life has also brainwashed him.  But regardless of who or what is responsible, you are the only one who could look out for you.  And if the relationship has been abusive, you are to be congratulated for taking responsibility for yourself and moving on, regardless of how you feel.  In time, as you get involved in more healthy interactions you would come to see that you did the best thing in moving on even if doing the right thing hurts.  Better to weep now and grow stronger, than to be weeping throughout the rest of your life.

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Eugenia Springer, Ph.D.

Expertise

I can answer your questions on how to stop being a victim, and/or how to stop being an abuser. My ability to help you, however, would depend on your willingness to assume full responsibility for helping yourself.

Experience

From the 1970s to the present, my life has been a search after knowing my purpose, knowing myself, and knowing God. I talk about this search in my 2002 book, "Further Insights Into the Journey". After years of teaching biology at university, I became a radio Family Life Counselor, and a newspaper columnist, responding to callers on radio, and replying to letters from the public, in the newspapers. My book for the adolescent girl, "Girl, It's All About You"(Review & Herald Publishers 1980, and out of print) was my attempt to marry my field of training--biology, and my adoptive field--interpersonal relationships. "Further Insights Into the Journey" is about my search for personal freedom--a search for freedom from external controls; for freedom from fear. Through very instructive experiences, many sorely trying, I uncovered that freedom within me, and found myself progressively experiencing increasingly greater measures of peace. To get your copy of "Further Insights Into The Journey" email me at dreugenia.springer@live.com For a few years I hosted and produced the weekly call-in radio program, Life and Living/Soul to Soul on radio station Power102fm.

Education/Credentials
Certificate in Parenting and Family Life Counseling Certificate in Dianetics Counseling Ph.D. in Zoology (specializing in Biochemical Genetics)

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