Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 6/23/2009

Question
Hi. I'm 23years old and was adopted when i was 5. my adopted dad which i lived with for 11 years sexually abused me until i ran away when i was 16. i then lived with frends for another 3 years until i moved out on my own. eventually after a few months i met these people who where willing to pay for my studies. i have now been living with them for almost 4 years. they eventually adopted 2 more kids now aged 14 and 16, and it is because of them that i am writing on this page. my 'father' makes alot of money and travels alot. two years ago i found out that he is still married to his wife in scotland and that he was sleeping with another woman. i told my 'mother' about this, who wanted to leave him then but couldnt just leave if she didnt have a job. i told her i'd give her a year to sort things out, but that was 2 years ago. i dont get along with my dad at all and when he is home he continually fights with everyone in the house. right now it is affecting my mom so bad that she is taking it out on the kids. I know how what being adopted is all about and i can see how wrong this situation is for the kids. i could easilly move out on my own but i cant leave the kids in that situation, its extremely abusive and they are so unhappy. so now im sticking it out for them. i dont know what too do anymore, my mother is too scared to do anything and therefore the kids are suffering even more. there is no way i would be able to provide for them aswell. would it be better for them if i arranged that they go back to the childrens home? i dnt know, i know i let my first adoptive father rape me 4 to 6 times a week cause i didnt want to go back. . .but no child deserves to grow up like this. . i want to make a change, but i feel like my hands are tied. .do you have advice for me???  

Answer
Dear Vicky,

As you say there are  two options. I suggest  you to go ahead with  the option which will bring safety , peace and security to you  and your  siblings.

Most important  aspect here is prayer. Pray to God regularly I urge you

Have  a nice  day