Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 7/27/2009

Question
QUESTION: what do you call someone who purposely messes with your mind with the intention of making you believe that things arent as they appear for there own personal gain? Not control truly messing with your mind and at the end of an 25 year realationship after being under the infulence and control of an individual your so messed up you cnat even function. what is he? narcassistic,. sociapath why would another human being do that to someone.

ANSWER: Dear Beth

That is too general a question. The better question is why you let them do it.

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QUESTION: what kind of a abuse counselor or advisor are you?obviously i was 15 when the relationship started 40 when it ended.do you honestly think a mentally healthy well adjusted adult would allow someone to do that to them? not now i wldnt.

ANSWER: So at what age do you believe people are responsible for themselves?

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QUESTION: Your suppose to be the professional, at what age are people responsible for themselves?

Answer
In my opinion, 18, 21 at the latest. Anything after that becomes that person's responsibility,including allowing someone to "mess with their minds."  Being a victim only dis-empowers people to the people that abuse them. Abusers have no excuse, victims only have themselves to blame.