Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 8/29/2009

Question
I have two questions I am hoping you could give me some insight on. I have recently seperated from my girlfriend. We were together for nearly 6 years. We have an almost 4 year old son together. She is horribly mean to me, nothing physical, but verbally. I have left the state to get myself out of this situation, it was the only way i could end the relationship and make it so my son doesn't have to be in the middle of the fights. I have been gone for nearly 2 months and I am planning my return very soon. I was hoping you could tell me what steps to take on getting joint custody and how I can see my son and not have to see my ex. I have been all over the internet and I have found nothing useful. I am from New Hampshire so the laws, I am sure, are different. If this is not a question you can answer I completely understand and I thank you for your time

Answer
Dear Andrew

You will have to petition the courts where the child lives for joint custody. I would highly recommend that you consult a local attorney how to do this, as every state is different. It would be in the best interest of the child that you find some way to be amicable with the mother in the presence of the child, you are his parents. Perhaps she would go to parenting classes or counseling with you.